I consider INFPs to be the least adapted to our society.
It’s easier to be an E than an I.
Between N and S, I cannot say that it is easier or better to be an S, but I know that there are more S people out there, so that makes N a minority (which makes us feel understood by less people).
It is harder in my opinion to be an F: most companies (especially big ones) and most jobs have – at least in my opinion – this kind of impersonal feeling that I thing is much better suited for the T people.
Finally being a P is less productive than being a J and we all know that our world today is a lot about being productive and efficient.
OK. So that places us in a tough spot. Basically we are not well suited for the world that we live in. We cannot achieve great success, not by this worlds standards.
BUT, and this is a big BUT, if we are true to ourselves we realize that we INFPs define succes much different than other people do. WE DON’T NEED SUCCES BY SOCIETY STANDARDS.
Would I like to be the manager of a big comapny – a position that most career oriented people dream of -, would I? No. There would be far to much responsibility, to much structure, etc. I KNOW that I would hate my life if I was an important manager.
For me, any job that has to do with the bussiness world feels like “inner” suicide. The moment that I stop dreaming of doing something that I love, I feel that I have “quitted on myself”.
I feel it is highly important for INFPs to be true to themselves and to others. I believe that if we are true to ourselves we instantly find an answer to the question: what do I want to do with my life? FIND THIS ANSWER and try not to let it go. Keep it in mind, it will help you during difficult times. It will keep you motivated. It will keep you focused.
What do I want to do with my life? I want to help others be their bests.
Hey… I am not yet where I want to be. There are still so many obstacles that I need to pass. I still have a hard time dealing with people that I don’t know or I don’t like, with this bussiness orientation that is everywhere, with administrative tasks, with my lack of organization, with my moments of self-confidence (that seems to go away when I need it most).
But I am much more satisfied with following a dream goal of mine that with following “society-standards-success”. I would rather be a failure at what I want to do then be a success at something that I did not want to do.
If you are an INFP, follow your heart.
No matter what, I know I want to say at the end of my life: “I did it my way”. And I know it will feel great.
PS: I realize that what I am saying means in a way that I might never achieve anything, that I might never have enough money, etc. Basically I am not traveling the well known path – the one that society designed. I know, but still, following my heart and being a failure will feel TO ME at the end much better than being a succes while thinking that I was not brave enough to follow my heart, to dare and follow my dreams.